Baby number two is officially one week old (well a little over). We have been home for a few days. Like the first week with our first daughter, the past few days have been a blur. I am running on mom adrenaline. As tired as I might be, I find the energy to do what I need to do for my kids. I have cried, and I have laughed. Having a child puts you through such a roller coaster of emotions.
I remember last week how ready I thought that I was for this to happen. You are never ready. Thankfully, my husband has a few days of paternity leave. What makes his paternity leave different this pregnancy compared to last is the addition of our daughter. While he can help some with the newborn, he is trying to spend the majority of his time spending quality time with our oldest daughter.
This has really been key for helping me recover and get some rest. I have gone on several walks around the neighborhood, but I have yet to begin doing anything on the bike or pick up a weight. Recovery is imperative for me. I would much rather take the time off to ensure that I do not ultimately set myself back by overdoing it.
My newborn daughter is so sweet. She sleeps a lot during the day, but I am not going to sugar coat the reality. I am getting up 4-5 times a night to feed her. That gives me about 5 rounds of one hour of sleep each. I am also still struggling to figure out how to make her comfortable. She still doesn’t want to sleep anywhere but in my arms at night. My first daughter went straight to her crib the second night home from the hospital. She also slept in 3.5 hour increments, waking only to feed before immediately going back to sleep. It has been an adjustment. The difference the second go round is that I know we will get through this phase. With the first, I remember at times being up in the middle of the night wondering if I was really made out for this whole parenting thing.
The weather has been fantastic since we have been home. While my husband is playing with my daughter outside, I have spent a lot of time on the front porch with our newborn getting fresh air. Sunshine and a little time outside can really make my day a lot better. No one likes to be cooped up in the house all day. Yes, my daughter has a pacifier beside her face. Morgan got back to (and surpassed her birthweight) by her first doctor’s appointment out of the hospital. Since this indicates she is eating well, we can start to space our her feedings a little bit during the day. Give mommy a break!
Getting out the door as a family of four has not been easy. I am having to explore untapped people management skills. Is everyone fed? Does everyone have a clean diaper? Does everyone have what they need in their diaper bag? Do we have back ups of everything in case we run out? Is everyone dressed? We did a newborn/lifestyle family photo shoot this week. We don’t do family photos often, so we thought the birth of our second daughter would be a perfect time to update (see photo above). The photographer was set to come at 9 AM. Somehow, we got the whole family showered and dressed to impress by the time they walked in the door. Now let’s hope the rest of the pictures turn out perfect.
My parents have been a big help with everything going on in our house. While there isn’t much that they can do with Morgan right now, they were able to take Madison out to dinner one night this week, so my husband and I could go out to dinner (with Morgan). I will say it once, and I will it again. Take advantage of the time your infant will sleep in that car carrier. Catch up on some date nights with your significant other. My husband remembers the specific meal that my first daughter sat in a high chair and proceeded to wipe the whole table clean of every piece of food and dish as we attempted to eat. He was mortified. We haven’t been able to really enjoy a meal out with her since. She was six months old.
If you have been following my blog (specifically my pregnancy updates), you know that I have been craving a good craft beer. On our night out, we stopped by Tupelo Honey Cafe and toasted to baby number two over Allagash Whites. As my husband’s paternity leave runs out, I can only wonder what kind of chaos will ensue when I am home with both girls.
I have to say, we are and will adjust. Having kids is certainly not easy. However, looking back at all of the pictures from the past week and the memories that we have made are every reason why we wanted to build a family. There is something so special about being a mom and having that unconditional love for the human beings that you created. When I got married (almost three years ago), my boss at the time used to sit back and tell me that I had so much to look forward to. I didn’t really understand the magnitude of that statement until now. He didn’t just mean marriage. He really mean’t having kids and watching them grow up. He was right.